It’s that time of year again…introspection and the rare convergence of optimism and motivation. While there are many who don’t make resolutions for a variety of reasons (Love yourself the way you are! I know I won’t keep them so why bother? Most people give up by February, etc. etc. etc.) any attempt to be healthier, happier and more at peace is always worth the effort. Here at She Says So, we thought we’d offer up some ideas that could help start your year on a more positive and encouraging foot.
1. Create a morning ritual (that’s just for you).
Find small ways to start your day with things that bring you comfort and joy. Write down 3 things you’re grateful for. Drink coffee in your favorite cup. Read the paper instead of online news (there are no comments!). Make a to-do list (if you’re into that). Meditate, exercise or do yoga. Take time to consider what might inspire you to get out of bed each day and get going and make those things part of your new morning ritual.
2. Ask others about their lives or what they think. And then listen.
For many of us (especially extroverts), it’s so easy to talk about ourselves. Take a moment to ask for their thoughts or find out more about their world. You might be surprised what you learn. Plus, we all just want to be heard.
3. Nurture friendships that bring you joy.
4. Apologize for something you’ve been holding onto.
This resolution idea comes with a giant, all-caps “BUT”. Apologizing for something you have done should not include any expected outcome. Maybe you’re forgiven, maybe you aren’t–the goal is only to make the apology without explanation or reopening wounds. Keep it simple.
5. Read good books.
6. Try something new.
Do you find yourself still doing activities or hobbies that no longer bring you joy? Trying out new activities isn’t high on everyone’s list, but you might find your life’s passion or a hidden talent, or maybe you’ll just receive the benefit of a healthy brain by doing new and different things.
7. Work to avoid passing judgment.
We all do it. Let’s do it less.
8. Focus on your passions/interests.
There are so many distractions that can lead you away from things you want to focus on. When you notice you’re getting sidetracked by things that don’t serve you, refocus on the things that matter the most to you or do something that feeds your soul.
9. Find a mantra that speaks to you.
My current mantra is “I choose joy.” Maybe yours will be “I have enough”, “I’m good at this”, “I’m stronger than I think I am”, “I can do this”, “Inhale positive, exhale negative”. Choose something that supports where you are today and use it as a lens to help define your choices.
Best of luck in the new year!